Lately I have been recommending the Gottman Institute's tools for creating better relationships.  One of their concepts are the four dynamics that can signal a relationship is floundering, and perhaps that relationship is coming to a dysfunctional end.  There is hope.  Choose to address your patterns that are not helping your relationship, and invite your partner to join you in creating the love you both deserve. 

The Four Horsemen of the Apocolypse - Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, Stonewalling